Paul Davy

In the self-help course, which I am studying, I have been struggling to keep up with the pace of the course. Video content to watch. Worksheets to complete. Journaling to do. Online tests to complete. And lots and lots of thinking to be done. I thought I might be able to shortcut some of the work because I had done it before. I would be able to keep pace. Apparently not. I had to revisit some of the work I had done a while back. Especially around strengths and personality tests. I needed to look for common threads. Especially careers that were repeatedly recommended. Topics of interest that would repeatedly come up. I would kick myself. Beat myself up for not working enough on the course. It doesn’t matter that I have a family, just moved house, very busy at work, president of a toastmasters club, struggling to train in martial arts. If it is important to me, I would make the time. And then proceed to beat myself up some more. Then I came across an interesting concept. Minimum Viable C...

If you are reading this article, it is more than likely you are on a journey to becoming a better you. A constant desire to improve. To fulfil your potential. To become the hero you see inside of yourself. There will be points in that journey where you will feel lost, stuck and don’t know what to do. You need to change your mindset. You will need to change your perspective. You will need to stop pressurising and beating yourself up. What are the main reasons that contribute to this? Other peoples standards In the self-help world you keep hearing the same questions. What is your passion? What is your purpose? You then beat yourself up for not knowing the answers. You don’t start out knowing all the answers to life. Life is the journey of asking the questions and spending the rest of your life figuring out the answers. You feel lost, stuck and don’t know what to do because you don’t have the answers to these questions. I feel the same thing. If I just knew my passion. If I just knew my p...

I mentioned in the past couple of posts that I am following a self-development course. To be honest, this will probably form the basis of quite a few posts until I finish the course. It is a voyage of self-discovery. I plan to share what I undercover about myself to help others do the same for themselves. This idea is around beliefs, stories and scripts you tell yourself. They don’t necessarily need to be true but you tell yourself they are true. Some of them can be an obstacle in getting where you need to go. We are especially focusing on the stories you tell yourself about the world. And the stories that you tell yourself about yourself. Perfectionism I have have a perfectionist streak. Not all the time but a lot of the time. That things should be done the right way. You should have the right tools for the job. You have to have the right amount of time, money and resources to do things right. This means whenever I want to do something I have to start planning. Acquiring the knowledge...

Last week I moved house. The contents of a two-bed semi-detached house for two adults and three kids were boxed up. It was bundled into dozens of cardboard boxes, plastic crates, carrier bags, freezer bags and wicker baskets. Any container we could put stuff in was filled. Two cheery and polite chaps with two 3.5 tonne vans rocked up at 7:45 am. They loaded then unloaded the vans. They politely asked what was to move and where it was to go. They were brilliant.  Then we were left to fend for ourselves. A new house full of our old stuff.  The rooms feel bigger. The rooms flow nicely from one to another. There is a park 5 minutes walk away.  Two supermarkets are within a 15-minute walk. And there is an awesome view of Leeds city centre. On a night, the city is lit up like a Christmas tree.  There is nothing like changing your environment to create change in your life.  There are some things though that are going to take a while to adjust to.  Time ...